What’'s your Groove?
November 21st, 2025
Writer: Goldie Abrahams
Editor: Sophia Wohl
How many times have you heard the excuse “I’m doing it to fit in.” What does fitting in really mean? How do we know when we’ve officially fit in, or if we haven’t. It’s difficult to live your whole life with the idea and goal of fitting in. It goes back to the idea of comparing yourself to others. Each person has their own strengths and weaknesses, that is what makes us unique. It is the quirky, cool, and fun characteristics that set us aside from others.
Growing up I’m sure you begged to be taken to the store to buy slime materials, lip products, rainbow loom, and even sticker beans. Did you really even want that? Or was that just what was assumed what was needed to fit in. What many forget to realize is that living life to fit in changes who you are. You are fitting in for someone, but that someone is not you.
Maintaining your true self and who you are is what’s most important. It may sound cliche, but that is the truth. Finding people that accept you for who you are, and not who you’re trying to be is when you can say you’ve found your fit.
With the rise of social media it is hard to not compare yourself to others, wanting to constantly alter yourself to be like the people you admire. But, the minute you start to realize your worth and your place in this world is when your life will change.
There is a difference between fitting in and belonging. Fitting in is changing who you are, and creating a false narrative of yourself just for other people’s approval. Belonging is what people must start focusing on. It is the acceptance by other people of who you really are. Not what other people want you to be. It is who you are without anyone’s influence.
Although it is easier said than done, constant reassurance on your worth and place in this world is what makes you confident in yourself. Who gave these people the power to determine who fits in anyway? There is no standard of who belongs and who doesn’t. You are your own standard; you create your own lane. Everyone’s journey is different, and that is what makes each of us so special. When you change yourself for the goal of fitting in, is the exact moment when you lose your spark, losing everything that makes you, you. Start thinking less of how you can fit in, and more of how you can be unique and your own self, that is what’s most important.
